So, new relationship to drop the burdens, to feel hope again, to feel alive again.
I’ve learned a lot in and from my marriage. I’m wiser now. I think I know how relationships work much better. I think I know what I need and what I respect. And what didn’t work.
I’m tired of not being respected and not getting the attention I deserve. I want to be happy again and I want someone I can trust. I know what I need.
So, I divorced my wife and married a crack whore.
Oh, wait. That wasn’t me. That was America.
And, yes, I have friends who have divorced and remarried. Stuff happens. We’re still friends.
But now YOU’VE married a crack whore. You didn’t just “visit” her once or twice. You MARRIED her. You can’t even divorce her for four years. Oh, I know she has good traits. She’s not beyond redemption. She has energy and she’s not afraid to say what’s on her mind. She’s not afraid to shake things up. But, dude, she’s a crack whore.
That’s the break, we can follow all your arguments and even agree with a lot of them. But when you say “the crack whore is the solution to my problems”. That’s where you lose us. You’ve gone somewhere we’ll never go and never support. You didn’t get her in to rehab first. You didn’t even really get to know her. And you’ve gone All In.
We’ll always question your impulse control, a tenet of earning trust and being a grownup.
We’ll never trust your crack whore, and we’re mad that now you put us in her care.
We're still friends, and we can talk about our pains and our hopes even if our world view differs greatly. We do have lots in common. Still.
But don't try to convince me your new wife was a good choice in any way. I can't budge on this.